Life is grand if you can boil things down to these two questions whenever you are faced with a decision making point.
Do you want it or do you not want it?
Because if you want it, but you are worried you cannot do it well, say it with me: “Anything worth doing (in life, for you, and to you) is worth doing poorly at first.”
Like driving. Like reading the Quran. Like trying to express your appreciation and feelings for people you love. Like cooking. Like getting more devoted to your Lord.
You’ll make mistakes, and you’ll learn from them, and you’ll do it better next time. You grow day by day, becoming excellent as time passes by.
You’ll be fine.
You’ll do it well one day, and you’ll look on your past selves proudly that you have stayed true to what you want and you made it happen.
But if you do not want it, then, say it with me again:
“Life is too short, too precious, too sacred to say yes to things you don’t want to do.”
Then it’s upon you to live your life with a sense of bravery.
Brave enough to (firmly) say no to things that don’t match your needs and your wants.
Brave enough to stay loyal first and foremost to your idealism and not be compromised by situations.
Brave enough to sit in uncertainty, waiting for things that actually match your wants and needs to come your way.
But only you can answer it. I can’t give you the answer.
There’s no one else that can answer that question for you.
And that’s the real hard work, the real home work: getting in touch enough with yourself to know the answer to “do you want it or not?”
Last but not least, I’ll leave you with this reminder:
If you want to make your dreams come true, you gotta stay true to your dreams.
In mind, body, and spirit.